We have access to an abundant amount of information which makes our lives simpler. Getting directions, finding a new recipe or seeing a restaurant review can happen instantly with the support of our friend, Google.
While instant information can be helpful, it can also make us feel like we need to change what we are doing on a daily basis.
To be completely honest, I don’t even change my sheets as often as the internet suggests I change my parenting style, my organization methods or the way I clean my bathroom.
Cue stress and overwhelming feelings, from all the “you’re doing it wrong” advice we are able to find.
It seems that our new buddy Google has become a replacement for the real deal… our actual friends!
We continuously critique ourselves when we type the latest question into the search bar. The internet is slowly invading our interpersonal relationships and it is in the absence of these relationships where anxiety and stress can become magnified.
Now, I realize this information is being read on the internet, and in the future I hope you find this site to be supportive for you in managing your life well. What I am suggesting is that we don’t allow the internet to become a substitute for human contact.
As humans, we have a need for contact, support and encouragement from others. Often times the internet allows us to try and fix our problems without having to speak them out loud to anyone. While in reality we continue to search the same problem over and over and find ourselves struggling with the same thing day in and day out.
We need to stop replacing our relationships with Google. Stop Googling, how to save your marriage, how to raise your strong-willed child and how to deal with a difficult boss. We need to start reaching out to our family, friends and co-workers for the real life support.
Are you up to the task? Then try these steps!
- Make a List of the things you are searching, articles you save and ideas that you pin for an entire week
- Review Your List and circle the topics that could fall in the “self help” category
- Find Your People look at the self help areas that you have searched the most and find the real deal human who can help you. Your mom, your friend, a co-worker
- Take Action call or text the person and set a time to talk! Coffee, lunch or even a phone date!
The four steps I am suggesting, and hoping you try, are to encourage you to re-engage your interpersonal relationships, your support system. When speaking with other people we cannot close out an article like we can on our devices (are you even still reading this? If so, thank you, I am glad you are still here and cannot wait for you to try this out). When speaking with a live person we are invested in the conversation and it can be in these times that we challenge ourselves to improve and make necessary changes.
So go out there, start making your list and find the area in your life where you could use a friend, or a confident to help you better than Google can!
And remember this, true life changes happen in the context of relationships.